Uploading to FTDna was easy. But it took quite a while to get all the results opened. I couldn't contact anyone unless the results were opened and nobody would see us. This is where Jessica came in VERY HANDY!
Within a few weeks, all the matches were opened. I saw some "High match" cousins, possibly 2nd, so I reached out to the Email address. There was a quick reply. But what we saw was no connection. NOTHING!
The match HAD to be through her father's side. It was 3 family members, two siblings and a half-sibling. Everyone matched Trish, but the mother was different for two. The father, same. So we knew it was there. But WHO? This was puzzling. a 188 cM match, a 186, and a 114 (According to Gedmatch) This means Trisha's match ought to be a 1st cousin or close to it, but... Nothing. Kristen set to work to find something, to see what she could locate. It was this time when I asked a daughter of a suspected mother to test for us. Those results proved it wasn't maternal here.
Kristen's father tested. Results were unexpected, not as high as I would have hoped. According to our info, now, Kristen's dad is a 2nd cousin, but so are her brothers and she's third? Seriously?
When Kristen found the match between Side A and Side B, it was a shock. It seems that side A and side B were actually all the same side of Trisha's family! But we now have names at a level with which we can work. Turns out that our "1C1R" is 2nd cousin. The match is Great-Grands. We're now on the hunt. Still don't know if it's father or mother, but now it's all pointing to father's side. At the Generation listed, we have 6 children. 1 of them died before reaching child bearing years. Several had passed before 1930.
I started looking for more children. Not in this Generation. Only 1 person fit the bill...and he was dead 1 day after Trisha's birth. But still, wrong generation for the search.
But I was looking for siblings of George. I had forgotten about offspring.
And I found who I believed was a great-great grandson of our match.
I wrote. He replied. Test arranged. No more answers until January. The search slows to a sloth's pace. I begin to check on the Irish side.
Tired. Frustrated. But it all continues.
And it was about now that I learned that Kristen's dad wasn't a 2nd cousin at all. Our match was far more distant. She is a 6th cousin. Her father 5C1R. We're at a loss to explain the high match. But I'm glad, this strangeness was found. And I'm grateful I had such a helpful match...even if it was far more distant than we expected!